Part II There Is No Such Thing As Self-Sabotage: What do I really want?

by Kimberly Lorenz, BCHP

“The biggest thing holding you back is almost always… you. Start there.” – Hunter Post

What do I really want?

Consciously, studying for the test, making the sales calls, or any other thing that makes the most logical sense is good for you. But if you are having a problem completing them, that means you want to do something else more, that is stay out of pain.

Most of the time the subconscious mind’s primary goal is to keep you out of pain. The pain of the presentation, or making the sales calls, may be a price too high to pay. The juice just isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

Emotional discomfort has 3 sources; past, present and future. Feelings of discomfort and pain in the present will resonate with similar feelings from the past if they are still with use and make the current task/goal too painful to do. That is why we don’t do the things we say we want to do, the things that make the most logical sense and why we end up doing the behavior that keeps us out of the feeling that is too uncomfortable and not worth the price.

The way to resolve this problem is to begin the process of neutralizing painful feelings from the past, and neutralizing the unhealthy and unhelpful programs that created them. Giving us the ability to accomplish the tasks we want to really do.

To neutralize the past feelings we need to engage in a process, daily, of self-hypnosis and mindfulness. I love teaching advanced self-hypnosis techniques to my clients who then use it for the rest of their lives to stay virus free, it’s like using McAfee in your mind!

Mindfulness is the practice of acknowledging that we have emotions, and our behavior is controlled by them. Asking ourselves, “should I really feel ___, right now?” is a great first step

Both of these skills are at the center of working with me 1:1, or in a group.

tags: hypnosis, subconscious mind, conscious mind, self-sabotage